Nov. 24, 2011
Thanksgiving day conflicts are a reality not many want to admit to. Those who celebrate want to remember the day as one of good friends, family, and food. Today I’d like to introduce you to the dark side of Thanksgiving.
If you find yourself dreading the Thanksgiving holiday, you’re not alone. In a recent poll taken by NBC’s iVillage, 68% of the women who responded expect trouble during the main course. Ten percent of those dread the holiday.
Women report the major cause of their stress is caused by their mother-in-laws and sister-in-laws. Sometimes it’s a case of too many cooks in the kitchen. Other times it’s whose family a couple should spend the day with. Yes, Thanksgiving dinner is definitely a holiday that must be planned with the utmost of respect for everyone involved.
I was surprised to learn the female members of a family create the most stress. Taking a cue from the local news, I would think the men would cause more problems. Mainly in the form of alcohol.
Tempers can get short when you gather drinking men around a post-Thanksgiving meal sporting event. Especially with those men who save alcohol for what they like to call “special occasions.”
A study conducted by the University of California at Berkeley and UC San Diego showed domestic violence calls to San Diego police increased a whopping 22% on Thanksgiving. Police departments throughout the U.S. show similar spikes in criminal domestic violence.
Some reasons for conflict include
*Child custody disputes
*Alcohol or drug abuse while around family
*Family members who just don’t get along
While there is no way to totally avoid Thanksgiving day conflicts, it’s a good idea for families to prepare a schedule well before the holiday and stick to it. Discuss topics that could start an argument and stay clear of them. If things begin to get out of hand verbally or physically, don’t be embarrassed to leave earlier than planned.
Thanksgiving is a holiday that should be about good times and love of family. Please try to behave and avoid subjects that instigate arguments.